Shift Your Focus…Use your Tools!

Life can be stressful…especially these days! We are so inundated with news reports, articles, tweets and IG posts that encourage us to focus on what’s happening right now in our world and in our daily life. To deal with the reality of the situation.

But what if reality is killing you? I’m not being dramatic here…

Listening to words of fear and hate kill the love that was designed into your DNA by God.

Watching images of death, pain and lack kill the joy and peace within you.

I know that I am an empathetic being that can quickly feel the emotions of others – both good and bad. So, I understand what is needed for me to maintain a life of peace, joy and love.

Shifting my focus has been an essential tool in doing so. It is a tool I use to disconnect from ‘reality’ when it is killing the goodness from my moments. I have the power to choose this mental and physical shift – and so do you!

Shifting from images of what I don’t want to visions of what I do want.

Shifting from feelings of sadness, abandonment and pain to memories of love, joy and peace.

I am trained in the area of architecture and design. I went to college for it and I’ve worked in the industry for over 18 years. During that time, I picked up some tools along the way to help me be productive and successful in this specific area. Without them, I could not function!

The same principle relates to your WELLNESS! You cannot ‘wing’ your wellness! Intentionally and purposefully GATHER the tools you need to BUILD the life you desire! My Wellness Toolkit was created JUST for this reason!

One thing I realized very early in my wellness journey was that unless I had resources, or TOOLS, to support my daily walk, I would not be successful! The books I read, the audios I listened to, the words I spoke and the essential oils I used were my tools to remain COMMITTED on my journey to wellness. This is the motivation behind my product, The Wellness Toolkit! It is an attractive reminder to hold your wellness as sacred and take daily intentional steps towards it.

This is a perfect first step on your journey to create a daily practice of self-care, prayer and meditation.

I always tell my friends, family and clients – start your day telling YOURSELF who you are before the world has the chance to!

So, what’s in YOUR toolkit? Do you have a daily practice now? Are you interested in starting one?

Wherever you are on the spectrum, today is the reminder you need to continue or get started! If you are interested in my products for your journey to inner peace, click here to find out more!

The LOOK or The LIFEstyle: Your Thoughts will Decide

Do You have “The Look”?

Do you remember the song, “You got the Look” by Prince? It’s all centered around the interaction of a man and woman focused on outer appearance (check it out on YouTube when you get a chance.) This video was an over the top expression of this surface interaction and the expectations associated with it, but, many of us today are living this way and we may not even be aware of it!

The ‘Look” can be described in many ways, but I want to offer the following descriptions:

  • Surface evidence (not sustainable)
  • Acceptable and understood by the majority
  • Weak; will crumble under pressure
  • False peace

The “Lifestyle” can be described as:

  • Built by DAILY, intentional actions
  • Misunderstood by the majority – “too much work”
  • Strong; will flourish under pressure
  • True peace

How to Get Over the Look and Live the Lifestyle

So, there are definite steps to take in order to get over the LOOK and live the LIFE. These steps may feel uncomfortable at first, but once you learn the value of self-reflection, this process will become a blessing! Let’s get started! The first 4 steps are questions for you to explore:

  1. “What do I believe?” – Ask yourself this question in front of a blank journal page. Begin writing down your belief statements. Many times, you will notice how negative and limiting your beliefs really are. But since you are unaware of them, you continue to operate under its influence.
  2. “Who taught me this belief? – This is NOT a blame exercise. You are acknowledging the origin of a specific belief. If mom taught you that ‘Money is hard to earn!’, write that down.
  3. “What do I believe about these beliefs?” – This question may seem obvious, but it’s really not! Do you know how frequently we live out beliefs we don’t truly believe in – it’s just HABIT! Here’s an example: “Go to college to get your degree and secure a steady job” may not be your belief, but you do it because everyone else does! You don’t believe in it, but you do it anyway…
  4. “Does this belief create anxiety in my life or does it foster peace?” – Being the best dressed woman in the room so that you can feel valuable, worthy and relevant is not a peaceful thought. That is fear-based thought! Peace exudes love, patience and ease. So, if you enjoy fashion, do it for the sheer enjoyment you receive from the feel of the fabric on your skin and the confidence your stilettos provide you while walking down the street. These types of thoughts seek to elevate you while never belittling another – see the difference?

So now, let’s SHIFT!

Step number 5 is SHIFT! The questions asked above will begin to reveal the true motivation behind you daily actions. These old beliefs need to be shifted AND elevated in order to live the LIFE of peace you desire each day.

You need to see your beliefs through the lens of possibility! For example:

  • “Money is hard to earn!” is a limited belief.
  • “Money is abundant and I have access to all I need to be of service to this world!” is a shifted/elevated belief .

Now, you try it! Walk through the steps provided above and leave me a comment on your shift!

Until next time,

Peace and Blessings!

 

Writing the Narrative Without Words

Whenever life presents me with a buffet of challenges, triumphs, possibility and pains, I write a narrative. Sometimes it is literal, like this blog. Other times, it is mental and non-verbal. I have a few tools that I use to create this ‘mental narrative’ and I want to share one of them with you today!

“Help me to SEE farther than I can LOOK”

Whenever my physical circumstances project an image that is not aligned with the vision I have for my life, I mentally replace what I SEE with what I BELIEVE. When my body attempts to manifest sickness, I choose to believe in my healing. When finances are challnged, I choose to believe in my abundance.

Is this mental shift easy? No…

Is this mental shift necessary? YES!

Taking 15 minutes out of my day to visualize the life I believe to be true and in alignment with my purpose changes the narrative. It causes my subconscious mind to ponder the two options before it and decide what will be our focus. The consistent, repetitive thought will win every time! It does not matter if you feel it is positive or negative. The frequency of a thought will determine your belief. When I consistently think that I am unworthy of happiness, guess what? Your body will believe it and live that belief! Speaking one belief and thinking on another is called double-mindedness…And you know what you can expect from that decision? Nothing that you truly desire!

It is not a life I want to live, do you? So, what can you do RIGHT NOW to change your narrative? Here is one tool for your toolkit!

Visualization Application Steps:

Find a quiet, secluded space to sit where you know you will not be disturbed for at least 15 minutes. Close the door if applicable and turn off all distractions…Yes, that means your phone!

Position yourself in a chair with a supportive back or sit on the floor with your back against the wall for support. Make sure you hands and legs are relaxed and comfortable.

Think about what your IDEAL day. You know, the day where everything is flowing and you are connected and engaged with God, yourself and people. Get a good concept in your mind.Now, take 5 deep breaths…Slowly…

Close your eyes.

See yourself on your IDEAL day. What are you wearing? What do you smell? What do you see and hear? Are you walking down a city street with a coffee cup listening to some acoustic soul? Are you in your home office, excited about the people you will serve today? What are you doing IN DETAIL.

(Best step of all) Allow your mind to freely play out that entire day. Waking up, getting ready, getting into your car, the conversations you have, the smell of the flowers as you walk past a garden. I mean, there are no boundaries or limits on the awesomeness of this IDEAL day.

Open your eyes and take steps to BE that person you just visualized!

I promise that this exercise, if done with consistency and passion, will radically change your perspective for your life and the possibilities that are available to you!

Try it today and let me know about by posting a comment below!

Experience Wellness and Breathe Deeply!

Power of Intention

Last week, I experienced an amazing manifestation of an imagined thought. What was once only on a paper, became a realized dream right before my eyes. If you asked me a year ago if any of this was possible, I would have said, “For someone else, yes.” My belief muscle was so weak that any resistance would have caused me to coward away in fear. What a difference a year can make!!

LOOKING BACK TO SEE AHEAD

I took a trip home to Brooklyn NY last weekend for an event hosted by my life coach. The topic of the event was Confidence. As I drove through Downtown Brooklyn, I started to remember the last time I walked those busy streets. My final year as a senior in high school was a challenging one. Finally heading out into the world on my own, ending a relationship of 2 years with my then boyfriend, still feeling incredibly insecure and self-conscious and not being fully convinced of my life’s path. That was a heavy load to carry with no real outlet to release it. It was me, God and my journal ( I still have days like that!) Needless to say, I was not a confident young lady and I had no idea just how dangerous that would be. The subsequent years would be spent in abusive relationships, crippling self-doubt and unspeakable fears about whether my life was good enough. As I drove down familiar roads watching young woman walking and going about their day, I wondered how many of them are experiencing the same things that did? And did they even realize what was possible for their lives? The walls you build around yourself to function in NY can be very tough and for a long time, I thought I needed them to be safe emotionally. But, oh what a difference a year can make!

IMAGINE THAT

Imagination is defined as ” the creative ability to form images, ideas, and sensations in the mind without any immediate input of the senses (such as seeing or hearing).” Imagination is a muscle that not everyone is blessed with. I have always had an active imagination so seeing what is not physically present comes naturally. But sometimes, when a part of you is wounded, your imaging faculty becomes sluggish and unclear – weighed down by the layers of pain, doubt and fear. Similar to a body weighed down by excess fat, you must shed the burdens in order to see the definition of the muscle and strengthen it. I have spent the past year strengthening this muscle that I allowed to go unused for many years due to fear, pain and doubt. Imagining what is possible for your life when you do not believe you are worthy of it is nearly impossible! BUT, you can overcome it. There are 3 steps that I took CONSISTENTLY for a full year to unlock my hindered imagination:

Writing Down my Limiting Beliefs

This process was uncomfortable – period! I did not want to do it and a lot of guilt surfaced in the process. Seeing on paper the thoughts I held as law was very telling and exposing. I had no choice but to wrestle with it and accept them as mine.

Writing Down the Opposite of those Beliefs

Once confronted with these limiting beliefs, I re-wrote them with the words, “It is possible…” and then wrote the opposite of those beliefs. Once fully written, I spoke these renewed beliefs out loud every day in front of a mirror.

Attaching a vision to those New Beliefs

And finally, I needed to delete the old images associated with the old belief systems. You know what I mean – the vision you hold of yourself as always being fat, or a poor communicator or a failure in business. I cancelled those images and injected a renewed vision for my life! My vision was detailed and one that moved me to action. I allowed myself to remain in that vision for at least 15 minutes per day in order for a new narrative to be downloaded within me.

So where did all this lead me?

This image may appear to be an empty room, but for me it is a dream realized. On Monday of the same week, I drew a sketch of this very room…before I ever knew I would be in it. I drew myself standing before woman speaking to them about their wellness and the importance of investing in it. In 5 days, my imagination became reality! When I say that I sketched this occasion, I mean down to the seating configuration! The power of the imagination! Being able to stand there and encourage woman who were hungry for better possibility in their lives was beyond amazing – it was filling! I felt emotionally and spiritually full after that day because I knew at that moment that my entire life was about to change. I knew that my purpose and path were established and that I could move forward is faith and conviction.

It is a wonderful place to be…

Living Our Habits

Have you ever walked into a room that had the lights turned off and upon walking out, reached for the light switch?

Have you ever gone into the bathroom to wash your hands at home and just stood there waiting for the water to turn on automatically?

Have you ever responded, “I’m good, thank you!” to someone who greeted you with “Good Morning”?

Each of these scenarios depicts a person who is living out their habits and not living in the moment. This person is not truly present in their day to day activities and they are living on autopilot.

How did we get so distracted in our day to day lives? How can a parent forget their child when leaving a store? I know that example is hard to think about, but we have been seeing it more and more. And this disconnection is steadily deteriorating the quality of relationships and communication within humanity. I noticed this disconnect within myself and decided to do something about it. Today, I want to share 3 tips to get you reconnected to the world around you.

Just Breathe…

Sounds simply enough, right? But there are times when we actually stop breathing while engrossed in a task. Taking intentional, deep breaths, we provide our body with the necessary oxygen to think clearly and creatively. Try it right now…Inhale for 4 counts..hold in for 4 counts..now, exhale for 4 counts. Do it again…How do you feel? A little less stressed and grounded I would suspect. Couple this exercise with the application of a calming essential oil blend, candles or a beautiful outdoor setting and you have just created a healing ritual that will greatly improve you overall wellness!

Write it down…DAILY!

Daily, intentional actions guarantee a change in your life – this has been proven time and time again. Now, it doesn’t guarantee positive changes…Positive changes are the results of positive actions or seeds as I like to call them. We have all heard of the quote “You will reap what you sow” and we understand that it is true. A farmer will never harvest apples in the fall if he/she never planted apple seeds in the spring! It is LAW. So, the same concept holds true for mental and spiritual seeds. You want to turn off autopilot, so you need to intentionally sow seeds of presence! Set a goal and accomplish it in the time established! Create a gratitude journal and commit to writing down 3 things every day that you are grateful for. Write out the vision for your life and speak it out loud at least 3 times a day – upon waking, during your lunch hour and before bedtime. The intentional act of daily writing triggers the brain to do something new…to believe something new. Affirm your truth and unplug the autopilot!

Spread the Love

“Love is patient and kind” – spread the LOVE!

“Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude” – spread the LOVE, even when it is hard!

“Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged” – release them, and spread the LOVE!

“Love does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out” – celebrate truth and spread the LOVE!

“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance” – don’t skip a day, just SPREAD THE LOVE DAILY!

The Scriptures make it very plain what love is…and when we exercise our faith to walk this out, the level of freedom, connection and passion is your life will expand tremendously! Explore each of these statements and intentionally set your mind to walk it out for 7 consecutive days.

At this point is should be clear that living our habits is a choice that has become unconscious. No parents want to forget their child in a store, but when we allow our minds to run ahead of us and forfeit the gift of presence, we project an image into our environment that is not true. If you are ready to disconnect the autopilot button and replace it with INTENTION, I challenge you to start working on these steps, DAILY…not every other day…not once a month…not for some set religious expression of devotion at a certain time of the year, but DAILY…right now!

Just breathe, write down your gifts and spread the LOVE!!!

Desperation VS Inspiration

Deciding to walk the journey of entrepreneurship came very late for me…at least in my mind. It wasn’t until I turned 40 that this path became a possibility. Today, I am 41 (no shame here!) and I’m approaching my FIRST consistent year of business ownership! Now, for most people, they would be pretty excited about this accomplishment.

I have to remember to be excited about it…Let me explain why.

My past experiences included consistent moments of feeling inadequate, feeling the compulsion to prove my validity and value. What I have recently learned is that although I have overcome my limiting belief about starting a business, that ‘weed seed’ of doubt about my validity is still popping up. On my drive home from my 9-5 job, I had a major Divine download! It came in the form of a question, “Are you motivated to serve and build your business from a space of DESPERATION or INSPIRATION?”

I did not have an immediate answer…

Looking at myself briefly in the rear-view mirror, I knew the authentic answer…”I have been operating in desperation!” I then began to wonder why…what triggered this lack mindset to resurface? Here are 3 reasons I discovered:

Reason #1: My Vision

Recently, I have been observing many signs and communications around ‘lack’. Email, phone calls, regular mail. All painting a picture before me of lack and I began to internalize and mentally receive these images as my reality rather than seeing it outside of me.

Reason #2: My Energy Level

My emotions have been like a roller-coaster recently! Up one day and ready to take on the world! The next day, literally not wanting to leave the house! With low energy, you are pouring from an empty, depleted vessel. No good EVER comes from that!

Reason #3: My Time

“I am moving too slow!”

“I feel so far behind!”

“Why haven’t I created/built/made ______ yet?”

Whenever I begin to feel like I am on a hamster wheel going nowhere, I am operating from a space of desperation!

Discovering these triggers felt both encouraging and upsetting and being the recovering perfectionist, I totally get my duplicity. The fact that I was connected enough with God to receive this message and immediately receive it as an opportunity to growth and elevate was encouraging! (Yay me!)

BUT…

Debbie Downer (my ego) walked through the proverbial door with her megaphone and cloud of gloom and doom, “But you should know this, Dawn! Why are you still dealing with this? (Boo, Debbie!)

Needless to say, I asked Debbie for her megaphone and told her to take a seat and hold her finger over her mouth! Then…I began to activate my toolkit! Here are the 3 tools I pulled out my Toolkit to guide me GENTLY back on track:

Tool #1: Affirmations that PENETRATE

Affirmations are great…but only if that crack open the hard shell of doubt and fear attempting to cover your heart and mind. For me, speaking words like, “I am good enough” would not cut it in this space of desperation. It would not be specific enough to grab that limiting belief by the collar and escort it out of my consciousness. Instead, I speak, “All the good that belongs to me by Divine Right can NEVER be taken from me! There is no lack in God’s Presence and God and I are one! Therefore, all obstacles move from my path immediately and permanently with grace!” Do you see the difference?

Tool #2: Accountability that ILLUMINATES

So, I phoned a friend! This may be a challenge for some people and I recognize that. Vulnerability can be a scary thing especially if you do not feel safe with the person you are bearing your wounds to. This is where I would STRONGLY suggest you evaluate your circle of friends and companions and begin to determine who are your Elevation Buddies and who needs to gracefully leave your life. Going into isolation when you are feeling low is a guaranteed recipe for condemnation and depression. You MUST allow someone you trust and respect to hold up a mirror before you and illuminate your truths! Don’t have Elevation Buddies? Now is the time to pray for them to appear on your path! (You could also join me in my private FB group called, Space to BE! I have a small group of ladies who are truly seeking more peace in their daily lives!)

Tool #3: Space that ELIMINATES

After a few accountability calls with my Elevation Buddies, I came home to my sacred space and sat down. My intention for this time of reflection and direction was to receive reminders of who I am and who I am desiring to be. This unique, private space in my home serves as my connection point between myself and God. When I step on my plush white carpet, I know that I will receive downloads that will impact my life in a major way. And I am NEVER disappointed! In my space, I have a full length mirror. This mirror shows me all there is within me that I would normally try to hide. (Have you ever looked deeply into your own eyes and had a conversation? Try it and tell me your experience below.) As I looked at myself and thought about my future self, I began to hear clearly what has caused me to operate from a space of desperation rather than inspiration. With this information in hand, I could begin to shift my thoughts, change my actions and adjust my path forward.

Desperation – seeing, believing and internalizing the appearance of lack and scarcity in your life. You begin to think and act as though time is running out and you are not doing and receiving enough.

Inspiration – being so full of love, joy and peace that you overflow into the lives of other and touch a part of their souls that needed healing. You give from a full vessel because you desire to heal the world with little concern of what you will receive because you know and believe that YOUR portion of abundance and prosperity is already secured – whether you see it or not!

I’ve decided that I will not post, write, share or serve when I am in a space of desperation. My offering will not be authentic or healing. Those are the moments when I stop everything and head to my sacred space for restoration, direction and filling. Only then will I feel ready to touch the lives of others.

So, become aware of the source of your motivation as you navigate through this life. Many of us float between these 2 extremes and the shift from inspiration to motivation can be ever so slight. Honor the gift within you and do the work to discover your motivations.

Someone out there is waiting on you!

Peace and Love,

Dawn

Are You Using Your Tools?

ARE YOU USING YOUR TOOLS?

No matter what situation you find yourself experiencing in life, there is a tool required to successfully overcome it. And the unfortunate thing is that many people get in the thick of the situation and realize that they have no idea how to use the tools available to them.

A tool is defined as “a device or implement, especially one held in the hand, used to carry out a particular function”. Doctors have tools. Lawyers have tools. Architects have tools. Builders have tools. Writers have tools. Artists have tools. Everyone who creates in this world has TOOLS. And that includes YOU!

What would happen if a doctor had the instruments available to sew up your wound, yet had no idea how to use it? That is what many of us look like in the spiritual realm. God has provided us with every possible resource to live a prosperous and abundant life. We pray and ask for His help and when it provides it, we do nothing with it. Why is that? Well, here are a few that I have come to understand:

We don’t know what a tool is

We don’t know we have them

We don’t believe in them

Let’s unpack each one of these…

WE DON’T KNOW WHAT A TOOL IS

When we look at a hammer, we know that it is used to hit something else with. When we look at a ruler, we know that it is used to measure distance with. But, let’s consider for a moment that you didn’t know these basic things. What if you used the hammer to cook with, or used the ruler as an instrument? Is it possible to use these tools for these purposes? Yes. Is this the correct, intended use? No. Will the benefits be the same? No. The same is true for the spiritual tools provided for us by God. The tools of our spoken word, our faith, and the power in our beliefs.

Our spoken word has the ability to create. We are made in God’s image and He created EVERYTHING with the spoken word. And if we are unaware that our words create our reality, we will mindlessly speak words that we do not really want to manifest – “I can’t handle this!” or “I wish everyone would leave me alone!”. Consciously, we know this is not what we want, but the subconscious mind has NO sense of humor and will take this repetitive statement as fact. The misuse of this valuable tool will yield results that touch every area of your life.

WE DON’T KNOW WE HAVE THEM

Have you ever met someone who was a billionaire and didn’t know it? They are living a regular life, doing regular things with regular people. They expect regular things to happen in their lives and don’t really expect much from themselves and others. Then, one day, the message is delivered that they are actually wealthy and all their funds have been in an account awaiting their authorization to release it! Can you image that? Everything you could POSSIBILITY need has always been available to you yet, you did not know you had access. Well, that is the majority of the people walking on the Earth. One thing you MUST understand – there is NO LACK with God. If you are living a life in alignment with His will, you have NO lack. I understand that the natural world around you may say something different, but that is not the truth. The truth is this world is abundant and we need only ask and believe to receive what we desire. But, when we have not done the work to discover these truths, we walk through this life as a unaware billionaire.

WE DON’T BELIEVE IN THEM

I believe that this position is the worst of them all. Ignorance can be shifted with revelation and reception of truth. There is very little to be done with rejection of truth when it is rooted in hurt and lack of understanding. You may hear many people proclaim, “It’s not that deep! You don’t need to do all of that.” Many people do not believe that the actions they take and the words they speak have lasting impact on the world around them – including family and friends. They accept a belief that their actions only impact themselves and no one should care what they do. They see no connection between themselves and their neighbor and they end up missing out on the beauty of connection. When a door is closed, you should not force it open – especially when it has been closed on purpose. Forcing open a closed-door damages not only the door, but the thing used to force it open! Leave the information at the door and believe that one day, they will open it and let the information in.

So as you are walking out your journey in life, figure out what tools you need in order to live the life you desire. It does not just ‘happen’…there is WORK to be done once you have activated your FAITH to BELIEVE it is POSSIBLE!